Emotionally Focused Therapy

Through The Forest Counseling of Boston

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157 Church St 19th FL, Connecticut Financial Center, New Haven, CT 06510

Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) is a type of brief therapy that focuses on adult relationships and attachment/bonding. The therapist and clients examine patterns in the relationship and take steps to create a more secure bond and generate more trust in order to advance the relationship in a healthier, more positive path.

An EFT therapist watches the dynamics between clients in the therapy space, connects this behavior to the dynamics in their personal life, and assists in directing new dialogues and interactions based on more honest feelings. To accomplish this, your therapist will encourage you to discover your current emotional issues and then help you in identifying feelings and emotions that you may not be aware of. You may discover deeper historical feelings and vulnerabilities that have been hidden by the more immediate emotions you are displaying in your current relationship. You will learn to express these emotions in a way that allows you to connect with your spouse or family member rather than separate from them. You will discover new ways to listen to and learn aware of another person’s emotions, as well as more effective ways to respond to emotional circumstances.

An EFT therapist is a licensed mental health professional who has received further EFT training and experience. To provide accreditation, the International Centre for Excellence in Emotionally Focused Therapy collaborates with associated EFT communities around the world. In addition to checking credentials, it is important to locate an EFT therapist with whom you are comfortable working.

EFT can help troubled couples and families learn to strengthen their relationships. Frequently, clients are suffering from anger, anxiety, loss of trust, or a sense of betrayal in their relationship. EFT has also been shown to be effective for couples who are struggling to cope with their own or a child’s illness. EFT can help alleviate individual symptoms of sadness or trauma in addition to addressing the distressed relationship.

EFT focuses on the present time to makes changes in the here and now. There are three steps, or stages, of EFT. The first is to de-escalate the couple’s or family member’s negative cycle of interactions, and help them see and understand what is happening in their relationship. Clients come to see that the problems lie in insecurities and distance. The next stage is to restructure interactions, wherein the therapist helps clients discuss their fears in the relationship, using language that doesn’t push the other away. Clients learn to turn toward each other and discuss their needs and they become more open and responsive to each other. Consolidation is the third stage of EFT, wherein the therapist helps clients see how they got into negative patterns and points out how they were able to change those patterns and can continue these types of conversations in the future.

What is the next step?

If you or someone you love is considering individual therapy or counseling, please contact Through The Forest Counseling. We are a team of professionals who have the expertise to help.

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